Every once in awhile, a person will get stuck in a rut. They may have recently encountered challenges in their life that have left them feeling inadequate and unable to function in their life circumstances. Or, they may be so focused on their current circumstances that they have found it impossible to step away from the situation or problem. When you feel that you have become a victim, and are finding it hard to escape your negative attitude, there are a few steps that you can take to stop being a victim and regain control of your destiny, create a new reality and begin feeling more positive in your daily life.
Attitude
An individual with the attitude of a victim attracts negativity. Victims are often the prey of unscrupulous individuals and often fall into dire circumstances because they just don't know what to do. One of the techniques that is taught in self defense classes for women is to "walk with confidence." A mugger will rarely strike a woman who is walking with confidence, head up, and shoulders straight. The class does not teach you how to "be" confident, but "acting" confident makes the difference. As a very famous entrepreneur once said, "The secret to success is to fake it til you make it". This woman was one of the first millionaires to start a company that no one thought would be successful.
By encouraging a positive attitude you can more proactively deal with challenges and problems. A positive attitude does not ignore problems or dismiss challenges. But, you are giving the problem or challenge only the time it deserves and are not allowing it to become more than what it is. There are very few people who can maintain a victim mentality when they are consciously "acting" positive. And, just like the advice above, if you "fake it til you make it", you will soon find that your positive attitude is no longer an effort to maintain.
Re-Evaluate Your Goals
If you have never set goals, made plans beyond where you are at, or changed direction when you saw something was not going to work, you need to do some evaluation. Effective goal setting requires a person to set short-term, mid-term and long-term goals. People who are goal oriented usually get very depressed when they have accomplished their goals until they set new ones. If where you are at is not working, make some goals for positive change. If you are stuck trying to achieve a goal and are unhappy with it, change the goal and make a positive short-term goal that will make you can achieve.
TAKE TIME TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR SUCCESS
The brain cannot hold onto negative "victim" attitudes and positive attitudes at the same time. When people have a victim attitude, they often do not acknowledge their successes or think about their past successes. In order to successfully overcome a victim mentality and recreate your reality in a more positive way, you need to treat yourself like you would your best friend. People have a tendency to be very harsh and judgmental with themselves, this is not a way to build self-esteem in a friend and it is not a way to build self-esteem in yourself. Make a decision to treat yourself like your own best friend and, while acknowledging and learning from mistakes, don't hang onto them or beat yourself up with them. When you begin to feel like a victim, look in the mirror and give yourself positive affirmations. Talk to yourself as you would a friend, "I'm here for you and you are going to be ok. I am the best friend you will ever have and I'm gonna support you."
CONCLUSION
When you have the support of someone who cares, even if that person is yourself, you will find that it is much easier to be positive and begin attracting the positive events and actions that are all around you. When you begin treating yourself like your best friend, like someone who is valuable and loved, you will find that other people will begin to care about you as well. By taking control of your attitude and concentrating your efforts on the positive things in your life and the proactive steps you can take to change the negative, you will attract positive energy and events that will help you stop being a victim.
Attitude
An individual with the attitude of a victim attracts negativity. Victims are often the prey of unscrupulous individuals and often fall into dire circumstances because they just don't know what to do. One of the techniques that is taught in self defense classes for women is to "walk with confidence." A mugger will rarely strike a woman who is walking with confidence, head up, and shoulders straight. The class does not teach you how to "be" confident, but "acting" confident makes the difference. As a very famous entrepreneur once said, "The secret to success is to fake it til you make it". This woman was one of the first millionaires to start a company that no one thought would be successful.
By encouraging a positive attitude you can more proactively deal with challenges and problems. A positive attitude does not ignore problems or dismiss challenges. But, you are giving the problem or challenge only the time it deserves and are not allowing it to become more than what it is. There are very few people who can maintain a victim mentality when they are consciously "acting" positive. And, just like the advice above, if you "fake it til you make it", you will soon find that your positive attitude is no longer an effort to maintain.
Re-Evaluate Your Goals
If you have never set goals, made plans beyond where you are at, or changed direction when you saw something was not going to work, you need to do some evaluation. Effective goal setting requires a person to set short-term, mid-term and long-term goals. People who are goal oriented usually get very depressed when they have accomplished their goals until they set new ones. If where you are at is not working, make some goals for positive change. If you are stuck trying to achieve a goal and are unhappy with it, change the goal and make a positive short-term goal that will make you can achieve.
TAKE TIME TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR SUCCESS
The brain cannot hold onto negative "victim" attitudes and positive attitudes at the same time. When people have a victim attitude, they often do not acknowledge their successes or think about their past successes. In order to successfully overcome a victim mentality and recreate your reality in a more positive way, you need to treat yourself like you would your best friend. People have a tendency to be very harsh and judgmental with themselves, this is not a way to build self-esteem in a friend and it is not a way to build self-esteem in yourself. Make a decision to treat yourself like your own best friend and, while acknowledging and learning from mistakes, don't hang onto them or beat yourself up with them. When you begin to feel like a victim, look in the mirror and give yourself positive affirmations. Talk to yourself as you would a friend, "I'm here for you and you are going to be ok. I am the best friend you will ever have and I'm gonna support you."
CONCLUSION
When you have the support of someone who cares, even if that person is yourself, you will find that it is much easier to be positive and begin attracting the positive events and actions that are all around you. When you begin treating yourself like your best friend, like someone who is valuable and loved, you will find that other people will begin to care about you as well. By taking control of your attitude and concentrating your efforts on the positive things in your life and the proactive steps you can take to change the negative, you will attract positive energy and events that will help you stop being a victim.
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