October 30, 2010

Dealing With Patronizing Behaviors

By Paul Smith

Being patronized is to be treated arrogantly that is masked with a wrong sense of kindness thus it can be frustrating to be patronized by other people and this can be one of the worst experiences that you will be able to feel in your entire life.

Patronizing people does not choose any age. In fact, even children can be patronized and it can take on different forms like:

* Talking to a person and referring them by their first name while others address them more formally

* Patting the head of a soldier or a person who is disabled

* Praising someone too much after doing a menial task

* Assigning boring jobs at work

* Speaking too slow or too loud when talking to an old person

* Simplifying your statement when you talk with someone even if a person is capable of understanding difficult words.

Day to day objects, too, can also patronize people one way or the other. In fact, a survey done by an ad agency called Saatchi & Saatchi has noted that a lot of women feel that they are being patronized by companies who sell pink products from accessories to gadgets like phones and computers.

However, patronization can also lead to other concerns such as the low self-esteem thus having a negative impact especially when it comes to your work performance.

This is supported by a study that was published on the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. According to the study, there are a lot of male bosses who have a tendency to patronize their female employees thus taking for granted their performance. Moreover, male bosses also give a lot of praises to their employees without giving value to their efforts such as giving their employees a raise or an incentive.

This behavior according to Theresa Vescio, a professor of psychology from the Penn State University, has created gender differences at work.

Why Patronization Happens And What You Can Do About It

There are a lot of reasons why people patronize others but the main reason why people do it is that they tend to be insecure with their own selves. This is what Hale Dwoskin from the Sedona Training Associates noted. Moreover, he also noted that people want to wreck the lives of others in order for them to feel gratified with their lives.

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